When I turned 50 last year I went in feeling hopeful that this could finally be the year where I would find my way to a better place in my life but instead as the curtain quickly draws to a close on my 50th year and a new chapter awaits me in the not so distant future I am left to reflect on the year that was and if truth be told I’m actually feeling pretty darn defeated right now and almost as though I’ve let so many people down, including myself along the way; and if I’m to be completely honest, 50 has undoubtedly turned out to be the hardest year ever for not just myself but for Rich as well. 

But as that curtain quickly draws to a close on my 50th year and knowing that I can’t change what’s in the past I will instead anxiously turn the page to a new chapter this week and try to embrace it with that same hope I felt almost a year ago and with that same promise I made to myself last week to put more trust in God ( by placing my heavy burdens and worries on God and allow God to protect and watch over me and my family by trusting that things will work out the way they are supposed to.

I would also like to take the opportunity to share with you today a list I created of 50 things I’ve learned in the first 50 years of my life (and one for good luck). Many of these lessons learned have just been over the last year. 

1. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

2. People you love may disappoint you sometimes.

3. Listen more and listen with intent.

4. Actions speak louder than words. 

5. No one is perfect. 

6. Life is fucking hard. Cherish the moments that bring you joy.

7. Write down everything before you forget.

8. A hug can melt your heart. 

9. You can never go wrong being kind; be the reason someone smiles.

10. Change can be good.

11. Breakfast for dinner is the best.

12. Patience. Strive to have patience. 

13. Show gratitude always. 

14. No one is ever THAT busy.

15. Things can get worse. 

16. Nature is truly magical. 

17. Guilt and shame are the heaviest burdens to carry.

18. It’s okay to not be okay.

19. Family matters. Count your blessings.

20. Surround yourself with genuine, caring people.

21. Say you’re sorry, but only if you truly mean it. 

22. Have forgiveness in your heart for those who have wronged you; it can be very healing.

23. When someone shows you who they really are, believe them. 

24. Self-care is not selfish. 

25. Laughter truly is the best medicine. 

26. Bitter people will never be happy for you.

27. It’s okay if you fail. Making mistakes leads to learning.

28. Find your purpose and run with it.

29. Appreciate simple pleasures.

30. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay.

31. No one is immune from pain and suffering.

32. Sleep is overrated.

33. Not everyone will understand the journey you are on; surround yourself with people who are at least willing to try to.

34. Don’t let the mean girls or bullies take up space in your life.

35. Always make room at the table for one more. 

36. Read more. Sing off key. Dance like no one is watching.  

37. Self-advocacy is an important tool to have.

38. Don’t suffer in silence. It’s okay to ask for help.

39. How many chances is too many to give someone?

40. Having a mental illness is real and not a character flaw.

41. You’re never too old to chase your dreams.

42. Wear comfortable shoes and drink lots of water; your adventures will last longer and be way more fun. 

43. Follow your instincts, honour your intuition, go with your gut even if no one else is willing to go along with you.

44. It’s okay to create healthy boundaries for yourself. 

45. Show your vulnerability; it’s a strength.

46. Empathy and compassion go a very, very long way. 

47. Give back more than you take.

48. Be nice to strangers. You never know what struggles they may be going through. 

49. Eliminate negativity from your life.

50. Keep finding meaningful ways to learn and grow. 

51. You are enough. You are not alone. 

💖 always,


What lessons have you learned that you could add to my list?

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Author: Kim Fluxgold

Wife, mom of 3 beautiful children, dog lover, creative sole and children's book Author. Sharing my journey with depression and anxiety through blogging in hopes of educating and ending the stigma.

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