Grieving the Loss of a Beloved Pet 💔

Several people in my life have recently mourned the loss of a beloved pet; my own mother being one of them after having to make the gut-wrenching decision to put her 15 year old dog and loyal companion down this past week.

Anyone who has never experienced the unconditional love from a pet before will never truly understand the grief and trauma that comes along with losing their family member, because, to a pet owner, they are family.

The first time I myself went through the devastating loss of a beloved family pet was just one week before my wedding when I suddenly lost my cherished childhood dog Bamboo. Having to deal with the excruciating pain of losing her while preparing for the greatest day of my life made the healing process that much harder. I still to this day speak of her often and will forever carry her memory close to my heart.

Grieving any type of loss is a highly individual and a very personal experience, one that can affect both our mental and physical wellbeing; the loss of a family pet included.

Pets can help ease symptoms of loneliness, anxiety and depression for many. The bond we create with our fur babies can be very intense and can even be likened to that of a parent-child relationship where unconditional love, trust and acceptance are at the forefront; and some of the key ingredients that we may feel are missing in some of our human relationships. 

Yet there is still such a stigma surrounding how a person should and should not mourn their fur babies leading many to feel even more isolated and unsupported because their emotions aren’t being validated.

While most people can empathize with other people when they lose a loved one, not everyone has the ability to grasp the devastation that someone feels when losing a pet and instead may be of the mindset that the easiest way for them to get through the grieving process is to just get another pet.

Like with the loss of anyone close to us, people need time to process and grieve their fur babies but are often made to feel guilty, embarrassed or ashamed for even considering something like taking time off from work or other regular activities as well, only making them shut down more.

Another thing that can make the grieving process more difficult for someone and probably an avenue not explored enough is how much the loss affects a person’s daily routine. Our fur babies rely on a schedule which in turn becomes a regular part of our own schedule like when they need to be fed or walked each day, leaving them feeling even more lost and affecting their mental and physical wellbeing further.

Whatever it is you may be struggling with most during this time of great loss, it’s more than okay to give yourself whatever time and grace you need to feel all your emotions, even the negative ones. Talk about it, let your loved ones know you are having a difficult time and need their support. Maybe part of your healing process will be to spend time with other animals or to get a new pet but whatever it is you need most to comfort yourself just keep in mind that you are not alone and that self-compassion and self-kindness are key to moving on after such a devastating loss. 

And for those who can’t truly understand the grief and trauma that comes along with losing their family member, because, to a pet owner, they are family, can just suck it!

#losingapet #grief #trauma #empathy #petsarefamily #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #unconditionallove #acceptance #furbabies #healingprocess #loyalcompanions #pettherapy #apetspurpose #youarenotalone #selfcompassion #selfkindness #comfort 

Life lessons we can all take away from the Queen of Rock ‘n Roll…

Even when you believe nothing is possible…it is. 

You can’t change the past, so you might as well live in the present. 

Age is just a number. 

If you are passionate about something, pursue it no matter what others may say; that’s how dreams come true.

Take that risk.

Tell your story in an empowering way; never know who’s listening.

#atruelegend #queenofrocknroll #tinaturner #lifelessons #mentalhealth #domesticviolenceawareness #pursueyourdreams #takearisk #empowerment #tellyourstory #rip #simplythebest

The Power of Stepping Away

This blog popped up in my Facebook memories this week: I became quite triggered by it.

It was probably one of the most difficult blogs I’ve ever written or shared on my platform. It took me weeks til I finally found the courage to post it, but once I did, I felt a heavy weight lift, and hearing from so many others who understood my grief really helped ease my pain.

Over the last year I have spent a lot of time working through the hurt and betrayal I feel in my heart.

I’ve learned that it’s okay to let go of something or someone who no longer brings inner peace to your life or gratitude in your heart even if deep down, you still love them. 

I am slowly learning that by letting go of certain things or people in my life allows me more space to carry with me the things that truly matter.

No one should ever settle when it comes to their relationships and if that means loving someone from a distance then that’s more than okay. Give yourself the space you need in order to hold those most deserving of your love that much closer.

Give a like if this resonates with you. Do any of the memes I posted resonate too?

#betrayal #innerpeace #toxicrelationships #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #relationships #gratitudeinyourheart #fromadistance #holdingspace #triggers #community #youarenotalone #whattrulymatters #youmatter 

Reflections from our Anniversary

Thank you to everyone for all your wonderful anniversary wishes yesterday ❤️. We feel truly blessed.

We celebrated our special day in true #summerofrich style by spending the afternoon chasing some truly magnificent waterfalls and exploring their surroundings; Rich always with an outstretched arm, ensuring I never slip or fall.

Afterwards we enjoyed a delicious dinner at our favourite restaurant which my beautiful and kindhearted cousin so graciously gifted to us in honour of our momentous day. We then capped off the evening chilling with friends.

I will never take these micro-moments of joy for granted. I hold each and every one of them deep in my heart knowing just how much even the most ordinary moments of joy can transform our most painful moments into gratitude and meaning.

I hope you enjoyed a reflection of our beautiful day yesterday.

P.S. I’m also very grateful that it’s a holiday today cuz I really need it! Long weekend, woohoo!

#anniversarycelebration #chasingwaterfalls #rejuvenation #mybeloved #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #hiking #nature #twentyeightyears #blessed #gratitude #micromomentsofjoy #togetherness #outstretchedarm #lifepartners #family #loveofmylife #itsmylife #victoriadayweekend #longweekend #unofficialstarttosummer @thekegsteakhouse

Stars Aligned

Today Rich and I are celebrating our 28th wedding anniversary. 

I was just 18 when we first met back in 1990 but only started dating a month before my 20th birthday. At the time, Rich was my manager at the videostore we both worked at; he was also close to 9 years older than me; our big age gap didn’t seem to matter though. 

The stars were aligned from the day I met you Rich. Maybe there is some real science behind the astronomical phenomenon that says Scorpios (Rich) and Cancers (me) are highly compatible for one another and make the perfect life partners or maybe it’s my own true desire to believe that we came together for a much deeper and more meaningful purpose.  

Thank you for choosing me to climb mountains with and for continuing to squeeze my hand just a little bit tighter every time I start to lose my grip.

You are forever my light in the darkness, my love, and all my starry nights.

I love you to the moon and back, forever and a day. 

Happy anniversary to us 😇

#happyanniversary #tous #twentyeight #summerofrich #itsbeenanadventure #lifepartners #perfectlyimperfect #ourjourney #family #loveyoutothemoonandback #starsaligned #scorpioandcancerforever #astronomical #purpose #meaningful #loveandmarriage #lightandlove #celebratethemoments #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #youareenough


A Gentle Reminder for anyone who needs to hear this today

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In case someone else listening to this today could also use a gentle reminder I just wanted you to know that you are worthy of a peaceful life, that you matter. That you are capable and beautiful and loved. And that you make the world a better place just being in it. You are not alone. Oh and one more thing, you’ve got this!

#agentlereminder #youareworthy #youmatter #youarecapable #youarebeautiful #youareloved #youarenotalone #youvegotthis @ agentlereminderproject

Just Look At My Track Record

*Trigger Warning ⚠️*

I’m riddled by constant anxiety and panic lately. 

I’m feeling desperate and helpless. 

I’m exhausted. Both my body and mind can attest to this as they screamed in agony yesterday; I surrendered.

My emotions are way bigger than I am right now which is why it’s taken me quite some time to finish writing this. I’ve stopped myself many times from doing so. I’ve even contemplated not writing at all anymore. 

Once I say it aloud, or write it all down for others to read it becomes real and I feel like I will have failed everyone, myself included, again. But I also know that you have got to be willing to put yourself out there no matter what anyone may think or say in order for someone else to feel heard too. 

When I was first offered the chance to participate in the Psilocybin research trial some 16 months ago now, I didn’t hesitate. Even after the abundance of failed treatments I had already tried prior to this one and especially after just having finished 2 grueling months of very intense sessions of Ketamine which did absolutely nothing for me.

I thought I was prepared for whatever happened next. But by this point it’s probably safe to say, nobody was.

So it’s no wonder why the next steps in my journey have been some of the hardest steps to take. I’d promised myself several weeks ago that I wouldn’t make any decisions until all of my most recent consultations were over. These decisions were not made lightly by any means which is why I’ve been so riddled by constant anxiety and panic lately.

I was praying that my last specialist appointment a few weeks ago would have given me some hope, or some light at the end of the tunnel but of course that was not the case. Instead two new referrals were made in its place. And now I wait again.

I’m starting to feel as though I’m a lost cause and that nothing or nobody can “fix me”, both mentally or physically. Just look at my track record. I honestly just want to give up. I don’t know if I have the strength to fight anymore, maybe merely surviving for the time being is all I have left in me which is why I placed another call to M.A.I. D recently. I was not turned away this time but there is still a long and tiresome road that awaits me.

In the meantime, after playing ping pong in my head for weeks now trying desperately to make the major decision over whether or not to participate in new clinical study for “Deep Brain Stimulation”, I have made peace with my decision not to go through with it at this time. The “what if’s” that something could go seriously wrong…again unfortunately far outweigh the “what if” everything goes right for me. 

Just look at my track record. 

I don’t want to be a guinea pig anymore. 

I think the quote I’ve attached best sums up how I am feeling right now: “There comes a point where you no longer care if there’s a light at the end of the tunnel or not. You’re just sick of the tunnel.”

#mentalhealth #depression #anxiety #panicattacks #itsoktonotbeok #trackrecord #deepbrainstimulation #neurologicaldamage #pgad #exhausted #lightattheendofthetunnel #sickofthetunnel #difficultdecisions #myjourney #blogging #writing #Psilocybin #guineapig #whatifs #maid #atpeace   

Old Friends

Old friends will always hold a special place in our hearts.

It’s always great connecting with old friends.

Meeting with old friends can bring an unexplainable rejuvenation to your soul.

The years in between don’t seem to matter.


Catching up right where you left off.

Life takes us on a journey and sometimes it reunites you with some of your favourite people.

#highschool #myhighschoolcrew #minireunion #thegoodoledays #friendship #timestandsstill #memories #micromomentsofjoy #mentalhealth #mentalwellness

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