Bullied to Death

***I hope every parent and youth reads this*** Trigger Warning: talk of bullying, suicide

I tape the Dr. Phil show every day, I have for many years and I’m not ashamed to admit it. Some of you may remember my obsession with wanting to meet him several years ago. I didn’t want to be on his actual show, I just wanted him to send me to one of the many mental health facilities in the States that he works very closely with. Hey it was worth a shot! 

This week (Monday and Tuesday) Dr. Phil did a two part series showcasing 2 seperate families who lost a daughter to suicide. 

Both girls were bullied to death. 

I was quite triggered watching these episodes and cried for the pain and suffering these families are going through. I can’t begin to know how they feel but I can say that while listening to them retell their heartwrenching stories I felt every ounce of their heartache and pain coarsing through my veins. 

As difficult as it was to watch I knew at the same time how important it is for these stories to be told. These stories need to be heard. These stories are meant to make you feel uncomfortable. These stories are meant to make you feel what it must be like for every single child who has ever been bullied and for those who believed in their heart that there was no other way for them to escape their darkness, their hopelessness and their despair other than to take their own life. 

“Bullying doesn’t just happen to other people”. It can happen to any one of us and any one of our children. It’s become an epidemic and it is certainly no longer just something you fear happening on the school yard. 

Since the introduction of social media and online chat rooms, bullying now continues to happen 24/7 and goes way beyond the school yard. 

For many young people, the taunting and teasing can be relentless and oftentimes is done anonymously through private group texts, snapchat and much more. 

These 2 stories were quite different but both resulting in the same devastating outcome. 

At the end of the first episode, Dr. Phil poses the questions to his audience that so many parents have asked themselves when their child is being bullied; “do we get involved?” “Will it make it worse?” His response was simple yet stern; “Damn right you should get involved.”

When your child is under attack, don’t leave them to deal with it alone, “it’s already worse”. If your child is being bullied at school or online and it’s changing who they are or they are being “cancelled” or attacked the last thing a parent wants to do is leave their child (no matter their age) to deal with it on their own. 

When a child or teen is being bullied they start to question themselves about everything, feeling alone, isolated, scared and wondering why doesn’t anyone have their back, especially if the bullies were once their friends. 

As parents we should stand with our child and do whatever we have to do to help protect them and if the school or parents of the bully tell you there’s nothing they can do or choose not to do something, then we as parents need to do more.

A child or even an adult will never feel more alone than when they are being bullied, lied about, shamed or character assassined. Unfortunately though sometimes, even the support from family may not always prove to be enough and the hate of the child’s enemies wins over the love you have for them. Still, no matter what the outcome, even the ones who will sadly end as tragically as these two stories and so many others have; and even though you will carry such feelings as guilt and anger and despair with you forever and a day, you will also know in your heart that you did whatever you could, within your power to try and help your child.

“These parents did everything right.”

**Please feel free to share and check out Dr. Phil’s website for more tips, signs your child is being bullied or may be a bully as well as other helpful supports.

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Author: Kim Fluxgold

Wife, mom of 3 beautiful children, dog lover, creative sole and children's book Author. Sharing my journey with depression and anxiety through blogging in hopes of educating and ending the stigma.

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