“No response IS a response.”
It’s a simple sentence, yet it carries a weight that can shift the way you see your relationships and your own self-worth. This idea has stayed with me for years, and recently, it’s taken on an even deeper meaning.
I was listening to a podcast by Mel Robbins where she shared three truths in life, which we all need to accept about other people. She further explains that once we learn to embrace these truths, not to fight them or bargain with them, our lives will become so much easier.
And to be honest, she’s right.
Rule #1
If they wanted to, if they could, they would.
People who care show you they care. Not always through grand gestures, but through effort, consistency, and consideration. If someone’s behaviour leaves you questioning any of this, then the lack of clarity becomes your clarity.
Rule #2
You can’t make someone else change.
You can support someone, encourage them, inspire them—but you can’t transform them. Change has to come from within. Trying to mold someone into who you need them to be only leads to frustration, anger, disappointment, and often heartbreak. Yup, heartbreak.
Rule #3
Stop being mad that other people aren’t who you want them to be… or need them to be.
This one is a rough pill to swallow because it requires acceptance. People show you who they are through their actions. Letting go of expectations allows you to see things as they are—not as you hoped them to be.
If truth be told, if someone genuinely cares about you, then they will care about how their actions affect you. They’ll listen. Pay attention. Take accountability and want to truly repair what they’ve damaged because “we all deserve relationships where respect, empathy, and accountability are non-negotiable.”
Letting go of the people who aren’t meant to stay means needing to stop worrying about why they didn’t make it to our future. There is likely good reason for it. Their absence is no accident. It’s simply a redirection in our lives. And often, it is a form of protection.
Remember that!
I’ve had to learn these truths the hard way by forgiving someone in my heart who wasn’t sorry and learning to accept an apology I’d never receive. If you have to beg for it, it’s never gonna be sincere.
This doesn’t make you weak. It’s just further proof of exactly how strong you truly are. And sometimes the most powerful form of closure is the closure you give to yourself.
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