I Can Fix This

For anyone who has ever found themselves feeling alone while trying to navigate their way through a mental health crisis or are currently seeking support or refuge from their beloved child’s battle with a mental illness; do yourself a favour and grab a copy of Kristina Kuzmic’s new book “I Can Fix This” ~ and other lies I told myself while parenting my struggling child ~. 


I couldn’t put it down. 


I have been following Kristina’s inspiring journey for several years now. I read her first book, “Hold on, But Don’t Hold Still” during Covid and continue to follow her daily vlogs for inspiration and hope. I’m one of her biggest fans.


With her son Luka’s permission and insight, Kristina knew she needed to share her family’s “heart-wrenching and ultimately hope-filled journey” with the world. A journey, that while in the throes of it, and with only the best of intentions in mind, led her down a path filled with fear and desperation when she unexpectedly found herself trying to “fix” her teenage son’s struggles with depression, suicidal ideations, self-harm and substance abuse. 


Her vulnerabilty, anguish and humility (and humour) throughout the book is a reminder that although we may not be able to “fix” others, we can sure as heck keep showing up for them in whatever capacity they need, especially our own children. Sometimes, the best way to show up for someone is just by sitting beside them in silence.


I have always had a fixer mindset. I often feel a sense of responsibility to “fix” others, even though I can’t seem to “fix” myself. 


I am an overwhelmingly empathetic person who easily takes on the emotions of others. Oftentimes, though, it comes at the cost of my own mental and physical wellbeing. I put a lot of undue pressure on myself to try and “fix” everyone else.


I think it has become a way for me to feel in control or to try and cope with my own fears and helplessness. 


I know this is an unrealistic mindset. Maybe I can blame Bob the Builder who made me believe all those years ago that I can “fix” anything. 


Thank you Kristina and Luka for sharing your most intimate recollection during your most vulnerable and darkest days, and for reminding us that by showing up day after day, year after year for our most treasured gems is the most rewarding and valuable way to “fix” another human being. 


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Author: Kim Fluxgold

Wife, mom of 3 beautiful children, dog lover, creative sole and children's book Author. Sharing my journey with depression and anxiety through blogging in hopes of educating and ending the stigma. View all posts by Kim Fluxgold